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Getting Focused – by Wes Holsapple

Wednesday, February 24th, 2010

 

The terrorist attacks of 9/11 ushered in a cold reality to Americans. It was the beginning of a period of depression for many. A few weeks later, my Dad asked how I was doing. I painted a dismal vision mixed with anger and fear. He asked me what I was going to do about it.What could I possibly do that would make a difference? With a look of resolve, he said, “son, the best thing you can do is to get back to doing what you do best; working and living!”  That was good advice then and it is good advice now. Today’s battle is surviving and thriving in the current state of the union, a poor economy. But how do you get back to work when you have lost your job or your business is down considerably?  After owning and building BNI of Mississippi for 8 years, Katrina hit. Nearly half of my clients lost their livelihoods and many lost their homes. After a week of watching the devastating scenes on TV, I remembered the words of my father. The best way you can help out is to get back to doing what you do best; working and living! In the midst of chaos, how do you find your bearings and get headed in the right direction? First, you must know where you are. The 4 Phases cycle is a good starting point.

  1. EXCITED: New opportunities and positive expectations describe our outlook.
  2. QUESTIONING: Things are not going as planned and challenges are overwhelming!
  3. BLAMING: Focus is on the symptoms of the problems, not the causes. Therefore, we blame what we can’t control instead of taking responsibility for what we can control.
  4. LOOKING:We all need to win. Many look for ways to change their external circumstances instead of embracing personal growth and working through the challenges.

Without realizing it, people go through this cycle in various areas of their lives on a weekly and daily basis.  We wonder why our emotions and results are up and down. We long for consistency but we can’t figure out where to start! So what must happen for us to spend more time in the EXCITED phase?

  1. Set and achieve short term goals in writing.  Accomplishment encourages us.
  2. Build important working relationships. Becoming equally yoked with others who are worthy, generates greater results and fulfillment.
  3. Demonstrate your competencies. Rise to the occasion, be your best and be recognized for your talents, ability to get results. 
  4. Be proactive. Start now, even though you are hesitant. Fear kills inspiration and motivation.

Courage is not the lack of fear. Courage takes action in the face of fear.

Identify which phase you are in. Meditate on the four action steps above. Begin building momentum to reach and stay more in the excited phase by writing out ways you can implement these action steps. Share your thoughts and convictions with a trusted advisor. The new year is upon us. Discipline your mind, body and emotions to serve the wholesome vision and passions that reside within you and are waiting for you to beckon.

 

A responsible person does what he or she can until his or her destiny is

revealed. The terrorist attacks of 9/11 ushered in a cold reality to Americans. It was the beginning of a period of depression for many. A few weeks later, my Dad asked how I was doing. I painted a dismal vision mixed with anger and fear. He asked me what I was going to do about it.What could I possibly do that would make a difference? With a look of resolve, he said, “son, the best thing you can do is to get back to doing what you do best; working and living!”  That was good advice then and it is good advice now. Today’s battle is surviving and thriving in the current state of the union, a poor economy. But how do you get back to work when you have lost your job or your business is down considerably?

 

After owning and building BNI of Mississippi for 8 years, Katrina hit. Nearly half of my clients lost their livelihoods and many lost their homes. After a week of watching the devastating scenes on TV, I remembered the words of my father. The best way you can help out is to get back to doing what you do best; working and living!

 

In the midst of chaos, how do you find your bearings and get headed in the right direction? First, you must know where you are. The 4 Phases cycle is a

good starting point. 

  1. EXCITED: New opportunities and positive expectations describe our outlook.
  2. QUESTIONING: Things are not going as planned and challenges are overwhelming!
  3. BLAMING: Focus is on the symptoms of the problems, not the causes. Therefore, we blame what we can’t control instead of taking responsibility for what we can control.
  4. LOOKING:We all need to win. Many look for ways to change their external circumstances instead of embracing personal growth and working through the challenges.

Without realizing it, people go through this cycle in various areas of their lives on a weekly and daily basis.  We wonder why our emotions and results are up and down. We long for consistency but we can’t figure out where to start! So what must happen for us to spend more time in the EXCITED phase?

  1. Set and achieve short term goals in writing. Accomplishment encourages us.
  2. Build important working relationships. Becoming equally yoked with others who are worthy, generates greater results and fulfillment.
  3. Demonstrate your competencies. Rise to the occasion, be your best and be recognized for your talents, ability to get results.
  4.  Be proactive. Start now, even though you are hesitant. Fear kills inspiration and motivation.

Courage is not the lack of fear. Courage takes action in the face of fear.

Identify which phase you are in. Meditate on the four action steps above. Begin building momentum to reach and stay more in the excited phase by writing out ways you can implement these action steps. Share your thoughts and convictions with a trusted advisor. The new year is upon us. Discipline your mind, body and emotions to serve the wholesome vision and passions that reside within you and are waiting for you to beckon.

 

A responsible person does what he or she can until his or her destiny is

revealed.

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